As a human being, I am often made aware of other peoples opinion of my body.
We ALL are.
It seems it is socially acceptable to make comment on one another's physical fluctuations as though it is our business to do so.
What's worse, is that as human beings, we are programmed to feel flattered, complimented, even delighted at the mention that we may have lost weight.
The idea that we have changed in physical mass since the last time we were in someone's company, should be a gigantically rewarding statement. Weather we have been trying to change that mass or not.
It seems that above appearing healthy, radiant, happy or strong, we place the most importance on the size of a persons body.
Without knowing whether or not the person has been trying to loose weight, we openly comment on their bodies with the intent that this observation will be a welcome one.
You have no business to make comment on my weight.
I have no business to make comment on your weight.
Yet, from young children we are taught that loosing weight is desirable to putting on weight. That slim is better than fat. That telling someone they have lost weight is a compliment, but telling someone they have put on weight is a put down and something we must never say. When really, both are just observations of physical mass.
Why is it that one is so celebrated, whilst the other is taboo?
Making comment on someone else's weight above any other defining feature , lessens the importance of those features.
Is loosing weight more important than appearing happy? Is it more important than exuding confidence? Is the size of a persons body more important than the size of their heart or the knowledge in their brain?
NO!!! Yet we are more inclined to make comment on a persons body than to compliment them on their wisdom, happiness courage or confidence.
The truth is, the majority of the time, we have no idea how one another feels about our bodies, so don't be too quick to assume that a weight loss observation will be a welcome one. For me, hearing that I look like I have lost weight is equal to hearing I have curly hair......It is a physical observation of my appearance that I have neutral feelings about, it may be the truth, however I have no positive nor negative feelings attached to that truth. Weight loss is no great achievement for me, as I am happy and proud of my body regardless of its physical mass.
Next time you go to compliment someone's weight loss, stop to think for a second...is their weight really the best thing about them?
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